Listen To Your Body Podcast 298 How to Show Up More Authentically w/ Grace Edison

How to Show Up More Authentically w/ Grace Edison

Are you looking to show up more authentically in the world despite our current diet culture? Grace Edison is a certified and trauma-informed yoga teacher who has taken her experience with diet culture and has fostered a space of honesty. Grace wants you to know that it is okay to not be okay right now, and by embracing a collective consciousness of clarity and support, you can give your trauma space to heal.

Listen To Your Body Podcast 298 How to Show Up More Authentically w/ Grace Edison

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Key Takeaways

In Order To Start Showing Up Authentically You Must:

  • Give yourself the space to discuss the trauma that has been brought to your genetically or throughout the past year
  • Stop trying to show up and honor diet culture and instead show up to honor who you want to be in the world
  • Building an authentic community to remind yourself that you are not alone and that you always have the opportunity to start again

Showing Up Authentically with Grace Edison

Everything from ‘Naked Face for Grace’ to collective trauma bonding is on the table today as Grace takes you down the path of no resistance. By supporting other women, showing up authentically without concern of judgment, and embodying the choices that feel right for you, you can stop feeling obligated to satisfy diet culture and start living as your true self.

Using Collective Trauma To Your Advantage

Whether you are unconsciously body bashing, afraid to stop wearing makeup, or are just trying to start showing up as who you are unapologetically, Grace is here to support you. Building an authentic community to remind yourself that you are not alone and that you always have the opportunity to start again, can help you face your fears of the unknown and start to embody the choices you make for yourself because you want to make them.

The Power Of Showing Up As You Are

Grace believes that collectively, women are getting better at supporting each other through trauma or struggle. Instead of getting wrapped up in what you look like, Grace advocates that it is okay to not have it all together. By reflecting on how you show up in the world, whether it is your makeup, fashion, weight, or something else, it is all about showing up as you are and feeling better by taking care of yourself however that looks for you.

What was your biggest takeaway from Grace’s nuggets of wisdom? Share what you loved most about her perspective in the comments below.

In This Episode

  • Why it is important to give yourself space to discuss the trauma that has been brought up for you in 2020 (9:54)
  • How the state of diet culture is being dismantled by the current events of our modern world (11:52)
  • Dismantling the armor that makeup provides and the barriers it can cause between other women (16:00)
  • Tips for becoming okay with showing up as you are and the effect it can have on how people relate to you (25:12)
  • How to find the balance between ‘over’ and ‘under’ doing (31:08)

Resources Mentioned In This Show

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Grace Edison Website

Follow Grace on Facebook

Quotes

“With everything going on, with how f*cked up this year has been, I feel like it is really giving us this opportunity to make real, authentic connections. And its sort of lifted this idea that we have to show up and look a certain way and have it all together, its really given permission.” (9:26)

“The beauty myth is really designed to keep us [women] separate, because if we are working together, if we are solid and in a community within one another, then we can accomplish so much.” (14:32)

“That’s what really started to tune me into the competitiveness between women, that it’s not even to get the guy or the girl or whoever, its actually some kind of rank.” (21:53)

“I think that I was never the pretty girl, so I did have to develop, I was always entertaining and wanted to be funny even out of the womb, but I kind of always had to work a little bit harder to be seen and heard because I wasn’t pretty.” (25:17)

“It’s about taking care of our bodies, but its also about us realizing the reasons we weren’t.” (34:58)

How to Show Up More Authentically w/ Grace Edison FULL TRANSCRIPT

Steph Gaudreau
This is Episode 298 of the Listen To Your Body podcast. On today’s show, I’m welcoming guest Grace Edison. She is sharing tips for how to show up more authentically as yourself in our current diet culture. The next evolution of Harder To Kill Radio is here. Welcome to the Listen To Your Body podcast. on this show, we’ll explore the intersection of body, mind, and soul health, and help you reclaim your abilities to eat and move more intuitively, hear your body’s signals, and trust yourself more deeply. I’m Steph Gaudreau, a certified intuitive eating counselor, nutritional therapy practitioner, and strength coach. On this podcast, you can expect to hear expert guest interviews and solo chats that will help you deepen your trust with food movement and your body. Remember to hit the subscribe button and share this podcast with your friends and loved ones. Now on to the show.

Steph Gaudreau
Hello, hello. Welcome to the show. I’m so glad that you’re joining me today. Thank you if you’re a returning listener, I really appreciate that you’re here today to spend some time with us and if you are a new listener hello and welcome to the world of Listen To Your Body. I’m so very glad that you are joining me as today’s show is such a great one. I’m sitting down to have an informal but powerful conversation with my friend Grace Addison. Grace is a certified and trauma-informed yoga teacher and she is someone who has experienced her fair share of diet culture, both in her professional role as a yoga teacher and then also just as a human being living in our diet culture world, and really Grace is here to share with us some of her experiences with challenging herself to show up more authentically as herself. Despite diet culture still running in the background, she’s going to share with us a couple of experiences in particular that she’s had and the things that she’s learned about body bashing that we participate in a very kind of unconsciously and automatically as folks who live in a diet culture and then how we can start to step outside of that, and create experiences for ourselves that are really true to who we are so that we can start to become that more authentic self and decide from a really autonomous place. What are the things that we want, instead of just going along with what diet culture says is the right way to do things to have a body to look, and so on and so forth? I really loved this conversation with Grace and I know that you’re going to enjoy it as well. A few things before we jump in number one, make sure that you are getting my Listen To Your Body newsletter. This newsletter comes out on average once a week. It’s where I share the podcast and then, of course, other tips and tidbits and coaching insight about how you can start listening to your body in a much more authentic way much like what we’re talking about in the podcast today. You can do that at StephGaudreau.com/LTYB, or listen to your body. Number two, hit subscribe on your podcast app, I so appreciate that. It is so very important and that helps new folks find the show. And then if you love this episode, please make sure to share it out on social media and you can tag myself and Grace, we would love to hear your takeaways. Alright, without further ado, let’s jump into this episode with Grace Edison.

Steph Gaudreau
What’s going on Grace? Welcome to the show.

Grace Edison
Hey, Steph, how’s it going?

Steph Gaudreau
It’s going…yeah, okay right now.

Grace Edison
Yeah, I don’t even know how to answer that anymore. Like when you when we first got on and you’re like, Hey, how’s it going? It’s like, yeah you know, yeah, it’s going

Grace Edison
Yeah, the dear listeners have heard me say probably several times now over the last few months that if I say good or okay, then that’s highly subject to change totally.

Grace Edison
Well, and I think there’s always a…um, I feel I feel often like there’s really there are some really great things going on and I am trying to focus on some of that stuff. And also, I can’t quite always put my finger on it. So it’s sort of like there’s kind of an okay, like in my voice raises at the end are a fine question mark. Not totally sure.

Steph Gaudreau
Yeah, a bit of a rising inflection. Exactly. At the end of that, yeah. I think it’s particularly refreshing these days when folks are, you know, they answer that and they’re like, I don’t know, really, or not great.

Grace Edison
I think you’re right. It’s totally refreshing because I think we, we’ve, we were so used to just saying, great, I’m good, I’m fine. And then and now it’s almost like all of the stuff going on this year has given permission for us to just not be okay. on a regular basis. Like we don’t have to no one’s really been okay. So yeah, I would say I would agree with refreshing for sure.

Steph Gaudreau
Yeah. Or just even the fact of us not being okay, you know, sometimes many times within the same day, but I fully just freely admitting that and putting it out there. You know, I think we always kind of there’s always This sense of well, I mean, everybody looks like they have it together. I don’t feel like I have it together, but I’m sure they’re human too, but maybe not. And now, it seems like right, that’s coming. It’s more, it’s more quote normal. You just say I’m not doing really great right now and be held in that space.

Grace Edison
Absolutely well, and it brings like the other night. So I’m in British Columbia. I’m in northern British Columbia, and in a small town and we’re in phase three of reopening and so I have my yoga studio we can have we usually have a capacity of about 20. So we can have nine right now and our restaurants have opened back up with every other table removed. So my, my man and I went to our favorite little pub the other night and a group of ladies came in, and I knew some of them and I was sort of like waving and they were you know a few sheets to the wind and a couple of them came over to say hi Cuz they just know me from the studio and whatever and, and it was really interesting. I thought it was, I was so honored that and normally people are pretty honest with me because I’m on you know, I am I’ve always been pretty honest my whole life but I make it a point to be really as honest as I can be even on social media because I want to foster space for real conversation as a value of mine. But they came over and I was saying, How are you doing? And they were telling me exactly how they didn’t say, okay, or any of that stuff. They were like, Well, you know, as soon as you know, the like Coronavirus hit. We, my husband and I, separated like right at the beginning of everything and this is going on or my business has been shut down, etc. And it was like, I just felt us both really relaxed, right? Like nobody was putting on a show. There was no performance element to it. It was just like, here’s what’s really going on. And some of what they were telling me wasn’t even like COVID related. It was just their actual lives. And I think that And even after they walked away from my husband, he was like, wow, they just went right into it. I was like, I love it. You know, like, I feel so it’s so real. Right? Like, I think it’s lovely. Yeah. And it has been. Yeah, go ahead. Oh, no, go ahead. I was just gonna say like, it has been such it’s just been such a… Do you swear on your podcast or no?

Steph Gaudreau
I forgot. See, this is exactly why I do I honestly go down the list of things to remind people of and I was saying, this is an aside. I was saying earlier before we started that I hadn’t recorded with a guest in a little bit and I was going down my mental checklist and I totally forgot to tell you that this is a sweary podcast if you want it to be and if it’s comfortable for you, so yes, you can say fuck, it’s fine.

Grace Edison
Okay, I’ll just try to keep it at a minimum more than anything because as much as I am like you know someone with a pretty vast vocabulary fuck comes out of my mouth a lot. My mother is just always like You can come up with a better word. Um, but I was gonna say like with everything, you know, with everything going on how fucked up this year has been. I feel like it is really giving us this opportunity to make real authentic connections and it’s sort of lifted this, this idea that we have to show up and look a certain way and look like we have it all together. Like it’s really given permission. Because we’re sort of in this collective. We’re in this collective trauma and as a trauma-informed yoga teacher, I mean, I see trauma in all different shapes and forms and ways, and sometimes it’s more apparent than others, depending on whether I’ve had a conversation with someone or not sometimes I can just sense it or feel it if I’m, if I, you know, I have to ask permission before I put my hands on people but it’s just really kind of bringing us back to like, we’re really we’re all human We’re all having this human experience, and shedding the light on like different types of trauma essentially, and fought like giving space for us to talk about the things that this is bringing up because even though like on a day to day basis, and now even as I said, like where I live, not necessarily feeling super affected by COVID anymore, which is great. I know I’m, that’s not for everyone, or that’s not the case for everyone. But it’s still bringing up it’s still triggering and hitting on the fears that a lot of us have lived with. Like for me, it’s like the rug the constant feeling of the rug being pulled out from under me because I’ve had that since I was a kid through like, you know, parents divorcing and a series of events of like, I don’t know what’s around the corner, and I feel like it’s triggered that in all of us.

Steph Gaudreau
Yeah, absolutely. I was gonna go back in the Wayback Machine for the folks listening. And just I always like to give a little context of how my guests and I connected and we connected through, I was thinking about joining the a mastermind with Trudy Lebron. And we had a call about that. And immediately, I felt such a connection to you. And it was just, it was so refreshing. We were just instantly being really real with each other. And one of the things, you know, we sort of talked about, and I want to come back to the idea of authentic community and what it means to be trauma-informed and trauma, but I think this could also be a little bit of a good lead into that. So one of the things we talked a lot about, on that call, which ended up being extremely long because we feel like I was just chatting her ear off, but it was great. And one of the things he kind of talked about is diet culture, and how one of the ways it seems like in the past or even now, that woman, especially white women tend to connect with each other. Yeah, it’s through the collective kind of Body nitpicking and, and how what’s happening right now in the world seems to be breaking some of that down. And I would love for you to expand upon that. And what do you mean by that?

Grace Edison
Yeah, well, so just myself going through, like Trudy’s program and also Louisa Durant’s program I’m in her program right now dismantle and we were having this conversation the other day, just around identity and the identity for white folks like of our whiteness that really what’s happened is there’s been like this hyper-femininity, I guess you could say or this hyper like you’ve got to look this certain way and because we haven’t really had a and I’m using air quotes, right like a collective struggle because we’re white, right? We end up do like I like the word nitpicking like we end up almost finding an issue in order to connect And even when I took sociology way back when like they talked a lot about like this collective just like a collective or common with it’s not even collective there’s another word it’s like solidarity through trauma or struggle. It’s kind of similar to like a trauma bonding, right, like when people have been through something similar but they’re, they’re not they don’t even know it, they’re just bonding because the other person can relate. And because we don’t have this thing that we can, like, we can relate as women. But mostly our trauma has been to, like professionally to look a certain way. And that changes all the time. And I’m sure you know this more than anybody but it’s like, it’s it was now it’s bucks. It was like, everybody should be really thin and now I feel like it’s everyone should be really strong, almost to a point where now it feels like the same thing. It’s like different same shit different pile. Right? And so we kind of collectively, women I think it’s getting better. Like I see it getting better, like everybody’s sort of making this effort. But whenever I was in school, especially high school, what we would do is get together and try out each other’s clothes and stand in front of the mirror and just talk about how fat we were and how ugly we were and how disgusting we were and that and be envious of each other. And I think that’s also part of I mean, this would be a whole other topic, but like, the beauty myth, right? is really, it’s sort of like designed and created to keep us separate, because if we’re working, if we’re, if we’re solid in and in community with one another, then we can accomplish so much. And we don’t have to go down that rabbit hole per se, but it’s like finding a common struggle is often like what really built a blonde and diet culture has been that for us white ladies, right?

Steph Gaudreau
Yeah, absolutely. And one of the things I often work with my clients on in my community is a lot of people you know, when they think about intuitive eating, which was a good chunk of the basis of what I talk about since I kind of made my way from the dieting kind of traditional dieting world into paleo, which is kind of a lifestyle diet and then this progression and evolution, one of the interesting things is people think it’s just going to be about what you eat. And there is a whole other set of layers that go into tuning in right listening to the to your body and combining that with all the other ways that you make decisions about what you eat your culture, your, you know, your unique biochemistry, that the way things make you feel in your body, the things you like to eat and don’t like to eat. And it gets a little bit you know, it’s so-called there are so many moving parts, but one of the aspects of that process is stepping away from that kind of Body Talk. Yeah, and it’s really when people I think first recognize that it because we do It really just habitually an almost unconsciously, right? It’s what we, we’ve known, it’s what we’ve seen. It’s what’s constantly reinforced in those conversations and those topics of conversation and kind of pseudo community. And when that is, when you see it, you just think, well, what are we going to talk about now? Right? It’s, it’s amazing how much of our time is spent doing that and how much of that connection is built on that sort of diet culture premise.

Grace Edison
Yeah, it’s one of those things where have you ever tried to do like the no, don’t, no complaining, like even observe observational complaining for 24 hours, then you’re like, I don’t know. Maybe just talk about what happened for me was, so after I have twins, they’re 12. Now they’re huge. So my son weighed seven pounds, 10 ounces, and my daughter weighed eight pounds, not seven pounds. 12 ounces. Yeah, and my daughter weighed eight pounds, 10 ounces, which is insane. For twins, it’s just insane. Like and I’m five, three, not just was as wide as or as like long in the belly as I was tall. And after I had them and I was an athlete growing up and always a, I would say like, you know, the muscular build was never thin or skinny air quotes again. But after I had the kids I was trying to like refine like I just didn’t even know how to move in my body. I had like, really severe diastasis recti like my eyeball was separated. It was I didn’t even know I couldn’t do any jumping really, it was really hard. And so I started this blog, and it was called it originally was my journey to weed them. And then I changed it months later when I realized actually I was trying to find myself I wasn’t just trying to lose weight and so I changed it to my journey to meet them. And I was just talking about like all of the self talk all the bullshit that goes on in our heads. And it wasn’t like it wasn’t intended. It was like an external journal. wasn’t intended for anybody to buy anything from me. I had no course nothing. I was just like, Hey, I’m a normal person. I’m a mom had these kids, my body’s fucked. Like, I want to talk about these things. And so what ended up happening one day, as I was like writing this blog, and everything was starting to heighten my awareness about my thoughts, the things I was saying how I was talking about my body, and my daughter, who was I think, three at the time three or four. I was getting ready to go to work. I was a financial advisor at the time, it was like putting on my suit. And I was in the mirror putting on all my makeup. And she said, She’s kicking her feet on the toilet, and she says, like, Mommy, why are you putting on makeup? And I said, Oh, because I like it. And she said, Why do you like it? And I said because it’s fun. And she said, Well, why is it fun? And it went on re like, and she can look at it. She kept saying like, well, but why is it and it’s, you know, people often like kids will ask why, why but it’s because they’re not actually getting an answer. Like we think they’re being annoying. But it’s Actually because they’re like, well, but why is it that give me more? So I finally I knew that after Why do you like it? The next answer is going to be because it makes me look pretty or makes me look nice or it makes me look better. And then I didn’t want to say the thing, which was like it because it makes me look better or because it makes me feel better about myself because I don’t like my face. Right? Or because I feel ugly without it or whatever the truth was. So I just stopped I put the makeup down. I looked at her. And I said I’ll get back to you on that. I don’t know. I don’t know. She and she stopped asking. And so the next day I decided to stop wearing makeup altogether and it was crazy. Because I went into work and people were like, are you okay? I’m very pale, you look tired. You look sick. You know and I like it was really uncomfortable. And then I went a whole. It was going to be 30 days. I know this is a long story, but It’s getting somewhere. I promise. I love those stories are amazing. So, so I went like I went up for 30 days and then through the blog and just through my Facebook I started asking other people these questions like I kind of started doing I started serving other women like can you go out of the house without makeup on? Is there a certain place you refuse to go? And you know what I ended up and I actually stopped wearing it for a few years. And my one friend said to me when you first stopped wearing it, I was you know, almost like kind of shocked when I would see you and she’s like, and then as time went by, it’s like your face changed. And I was like, I know something crazy has happened like my face got used to not having any makeup on and I don’t look weird and pale and sick anymore. I don’t know if it was just through comparison or actually my face started to change. I will tell you that I had like a kind of a one on one island that was a little bit droopy. That went away I think because I stopped pulling on my eye to put the eyeliner on.

Grace Edison
I have no idea. But anyway, what I ended up finding was that when I was talking to other women about it and some people joined me in it, I had this full like naked face for Grace thing that I did and everybody shared a picture on my birthday of them with no makeup on. And, and like then I started having conversations with people about it, it was that it was actually way harder than our husbands never really liked it or our partners or whoever we’re never really liked, didn’t give a shit. But the hardest place for us to go without makeup on was like other events with other women. baby showers, bridal showers girls night out. And that’s what really started to tune into like there’s this competitiveness between women, right that it’s not even for like it’s not even to get the guy or the girl or whoever. It’s actually some kind of rank. And here’s the other thing stuff that I found which blew my mind was people actually felt way more comfortable with me when I didn’t wear makeup. They saw me as, like nonthreatening, they could see my actual facial expressions, they could see that I was tired. When I went to the grocery store, there was this little natural food store that I went to all the time and when I would go there with no makeup on, or when I went there with makeup on people with my twins, they’re always like, Oh my god, you look amazing, right? Like, you must have it all together kind of thing. And then when I would go with no makeup on, they’d be like, you look tired. How are you doing? Are you ok? Do you need anything? And at first, it was offended, kind of right? I was like, Fuck you. But then you know what I actually started saying, like, I have twins. I am tired. Sometimes I would start to cry. And they’d be like, oh, is there anything I can help you with? Could I stop by? Could I bring you something and it was like suddenly now I didn’t have to look like I had it all together when I didn’t fucking have it all together.

Steph Gaudreau
Wow.

Grace Edison
I know there was a lot.

Steph Gaudreau
No, no, no, no, it’s so powerful. I love, first of all, the naked face for Grace is amazing. We should bring it back! When’s your birthday?

Grace Edison
February 4,

Steph Gaudreau
Maybe next February or maybe your half birthday?

Grace Edison
My half birthday, August 4.

Steph Gaudreau
I think but I think that that’s so powerful because it is an experience of like really putting that into practice. And like letting that drop that like letting that actual armor drop, right. And I remember when I went to, I went to New York to try to get my book, try to get a publisher for my book. This is now three years ago and I was talking to my agent and he was you know, he was reminding me just remember you bring a bring up kind of a power outfit and remember to have your hair and makeup done, and I’m generally not a huge makeup wearer anyway. Yeah, totally me and the cat and my husband now that he’s on work from home. Me and the cat at home hanging out together, but He said something like, you know, the makeup when I hear makeup is like armor. Yeah. And I just thought, Oh wow, I had never really thought about that before, but it causes like different access and I’m not saying makeup. I think you know if you love it wonderful, you know, I don’t have any judgment for or against but it’s really interesting how you’ve had that different interaction with people

Grace Edison
Big time well and I had the experience of like I would say I was very like so very athletic growing up, but then in high school, I put on some weight. And I had a really close friend who was like, a hockey player and everybody thought it was super hot. And we were out for a run one day and he was like so and so, so hot. And I said, am I hot? And he said, Well, no, you’re kind of fat. But you’re, you’re like you’re awesome. You’re super funny. And I think like, I was never like, you know, the pretty girl so I did have to develop like I think I was always entertaining and always wanted to be funny like out of the womb but I kind of always had to work a little bit harder because to be seen and heard because I wasn’t pretty but what I found when I lost weight as I went through kind of a time when I was in university where I, I had like exercise Nervosa and I was going to the gym all the time, I just like got obsessed and you know, blonde hair, tanning, whatever. And I actually felt like when I felt that there was then this distance between me and other women that they were kind of like immediately judging me. And I lost a bit of my personality to like, I kind of felt like I didn’t I was like, I don’t have to work for it anymore. And that’s the thing that happens I guess I’ve had a number of friends that this has happened to a guy specifically who was not really in any kind of shape smoked a lot of weed but was hilarious and like no knew so much about all kinds of crazy interesting Topics he got crazy boss did the like douchebag hairdo and just wasn’t the same person at all anymore and I’ve like I’ve experienced that and again I wanted to like repeat what he said I’m not saying makeup is bad. I’m not saying don’t wear it I’m not passing any judgments. I’m speaking from like actual experience that I found. I went to I tested it out as I went to a baby shower with kind of where I was living at the time was the women were so fancy they were just like in the group of people that I knew were affluent and fancy, fancy ladies and I went and I just wore like a pretty plain Jane outfit, no makeup. And I was so nervous but they all kind of kept coming up and talking to me because there was no longer like, like how you call it armor but it was almost like this. There was nothing between us. That’s how I used to say there was like suddenly there’s nothing between us. There’s no pain between us. You can see facial appearance. Better even when I put lipstick on. I feel like I’m moving my mouth weird. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. You know, I’m just not quite sure. conscious of it. Right, right. Yeah. And I’m an eye rubber and a crier. And I also felt so free once I wasn’t wearing eye makeup anymore because like, I could just cry without doing that weird under-eye wipe. Like, I could just rub my eyes and it also made me really have to dig deeper. Like I had to dig deeper into like, okay, so if, if I had if I, you know, if I if my worth isn’t wrapped up in what I look like, and nobody cared and I thought people were gonna like this is this is the thing I think. I feel like you and I were talking about this at some point, but it’s like, when we were saying like when you’re not talking about something, you have to feel the space of like what’s there now? And it’s like, I had to feel into Okay, like, Where am I actually what’s my fear here? So my fear is I’m gonna die. gonna wear makeup, or I’m going to be fat and I’m gonna look ugly. And people aren’t and then what? I love the end, then what? game right? And then what, they’re not gonna want to be your friend, they’re not gonna want to talk to you, they’re not going to say, you know, like, you’re not gonna be a valuable human anymore Just gonna be a piece of shit. And the opposite was true. It was actually like, the more I just was myself, the more I showed up and showed my whole self, so if I was tired, whatever, if I was fat, that, you know, like, my weight goes down, I have bipolar too. So my weight fluctuates. About 30 to 40 pounds, right? And that’s still something I really struggle with. But I have to keep remembering that people don’t treat me differently. In fact, when I don’t get all fancy and I don’t look at them, they tend to, it tends to be easier for people to connect and relate. To be perfectly honest.

Steph Gaudreau
So very interesting. Yeah, I love it. I know this is gonna ramp a lot of just reflection for folks. And maybe they will. I don’t know, maybe they’ll try some time without whatever their thing is, right? Whether it’s makeup, or I don’t even know, a certain kind of fashion or I think it’s really interesting, you know, we all have the autonomy to choose to show up however we want, but giving that point of reflection, and just awareness of like, how, like, how does, how does it change? You know, what am I noticing? I could be so powerful.

Grace Edison
Well, I think it’s just like, just like trial and error, like try some things out and I think to lean into like the discomfort. So just seeing what shows up and I had a teacher once say to me, if you wanted to why you’re doing something, stop doing it. And it works for the good and the bad, right. And so and I know you and I was talking a little bit about Just like what we’ve been going through and, and, like a lot of us, myself included being home, I’ve definitely been eating a lot of comfort food I’ve been moving less it’s been, you know, like I’m like, Okay, I need to rest. But, um, I’ve been I’ve just been noticing, damn it, I lost my train of thought.

Steph Gaudreau
So we were talking about finding that balance, right, because this we’re in this weird space, right? A lot of us are spending a lot of time at home where we weren’t before. I mean, I’m a hermit. So I generally go out and like, spend a lot of time outside. I love my house. I love to be at home. But we were talking about how we have this like, there’s differences in routines. Now there’s differences in work schedules. Now there’s differences in the availability of food. Now, there’s things that are being triggered whether it’s too much food around, like an abundance of food around or we’re worried about the scarcity of food like there’s so much happening and You were talking about how do we navigate that sort of middle ground right? How do we find that balance between over and underdoing right?

Grace Edison
Well and I’m not saying like what I’ve noticed is that I feel better when I take care of myself like I feel better when I have a shower and you know, I don’t have to put on like just put on something that I feel good and like wearing my pajamas every day. Like I found it was fun at first but now it doesn’t feel great. And so finding that like that balance between but it really for me what I’ve had a lot of reflection on is why I’m doing the things that I’m doing and also what feels good and resting all the time does like I do need rest and I do I schedule in naps are important. I can get doing way doing too much if I don’t rest, but also then finding the time to move my body and that that was another thing I was gonna say is like the trauma piece like our bodies actually. There’s this without getting into too long of a story. There’s this video of they have to relocate this polar bear and so they have to tranquilize it so they’re like flying a helmet. They’ve got to tranquilize and then relocate it. And so the polar is running, running, running, running. And then they shoot it. And it obviously likes it’s tranquilizing. It falls asleep and then they, relocate it and then it comes to, and it continues in the trauma response. And it shakes. So like it comes to its body still in that sympathetic nervous system. So it like shakes. And then it takes a huge deep breath. And then it relaxes and basically gets up and continues on its way. And it’s like, we as humans are able to override the trauma response. And the reason I’m saying this is because resting is so super important. And I feel like we’ve all gotten really clear on that I love following the nap ministry on Instagram. And I definitely scheduling those rest. But what I’ve also found is like our bodies can’t move through things can’t move through a trauma response. If they’re not. If we’re not bringing our bodies to like a shake, right like it with exercise. If you get to a shake, you literally stimulate A trauma release and then you have to breeze. And so I found that my body wasn’t moving through things with being home. I know Am I a different topic now but follow up. Come with me. The like I wasn’t allowed so in yoga and Ayurveda like we talked a lot about like the body has to digest thing. So like we take in with our like sense perception organs, rightly we take in eyes, nose, mouth, whatever, skin. So it’s like we’re in contact with the world around us. And we try we’re always trying to solve everything from the level of the mind, we’re trying to, like think through everything, when really a lot of times our bodies are the masters they need to just process it. So if we can move through some form of exercise or yoga where we bring the body to a point of like where it starts to shake, and then we can breathe, we are actually releasing old storage trauma so the body is now able to digest it and let it go. And then it’s still we still have the memory of it. We’re still changed because of the thing that we went through. But our body is no longer having a hold on, or an angel is cut off from the flow of like blood flow, oxygen energy flow, etc. Because that’s what happens is we get these blockages in the body when, when the bodies holding on and so yeah, just finding the balance but I have to remind myself that like taking care of myself is a yes and situation. And, and it’s really important. I think that we all have a community right now because that’s the big thing that I’m missing like, I wasn’t at the yoga studio. So I got out of having these conversations, or like having these real conversations and having support, guidance, mentorship, coaching, etc. Like, I just think that’s what’s so important is for people to find those, those groups where they can actually because I’m sure you find this even in your programs is like, it’s about taking care of our bodies, but it’s also about us realizing the reasons we weren’t.

Steph Gaudreau
Yeah, and I love that What you said earlier about, sometimes things sound really good, especially when they’re new, right? novelty, our brains love novelty. So it might sound good at first if you’ve not had the ability in the past as you’ve been working out of the house. It sounds really great. At first, it actually feels good at first often, too. Yeah, be in your pajamas all day feel kind of a badass rebel, you’re like, fucking I’m in my jammies. Or, you know, I was on a call the other day with a friend and she was like, I actually would get up right now, but I’m, you know, like, I mean, I don’t have any bottoms on like, I was in the pool with the kids and I just have like my shirt, you know, like, basically like naked from the waist down. So that it feels it can feel good at first, or even sound and feel good to do that stuff at first. And then like you said, you realize later on that it doesn’t feel good anymore. Yeah, but you’re, you’re oftentimes not and sometimes, right, that trauma being in that trauma response can prevent you from actually being able to access how you’re really feeling but You’re able to access how you’re really feeling is stopping and saying you have this change? And do I want to make another decision right now? Like what would actually feel really good? I think that is so important.

Grace Edison
Yeah, well, I think like that opportunity for discussion and for pause and just hearing, like hearing and I think what we have, what we have so much access to right now is just truth and honesty and transparency. And, and, and that real to me, it’s like real human connection. And I mean, like, I, I’m grateful for it. I know that this and we’re all triggered because we all live with like fear of like uncertainty and unknown and of scarcity and rug being pulled out from under us. Like we all have had experience with that in some way, shape, or form, or seen it or even it’s something our parents went through our grandparents and it’s like, in it’s in the gene line. It’s like in the DNA, and now we’re actually experiencing it. So it’s, it is and collectively, right? But I think that that to that point, like we’re all together, and the more we can get clarity and support and have the opportunity, like a pause for me is often going to, you know, like a group or a forum and just like saying, Hey, I’m here right now and writing it out. Like when I quit drinking, I was in like a sober something or other I can’t remember what it was no, no beer for a year or something I can’t remember. And I, I would just go and like, be like, I’m about to go for lunch with a friend who I know is going to want to have wine. And here are the reasons I’m going to remind myself that I don’t actually want to do that. And here’s how I know I’m going to feel afterward and just that pause and being able to voice that to other people was, was massive. So yeah, I mean, I think I think having discussion being part of the community having an opportunity to see that like, we’re not alone and what we’re experiencing and I think that that inherently good, like lets us cut ourselves some slack, right? And to know that, like we all know there’s always a new moment, just like the breath, right? Like there’s always a new moment. Like in one second from now that we can make like the next new choice and we don’t have to stay in that like, you know fuck at all I just, you know it’s the weeks ruined or the days ruined that we always have like-new opportunity to just start again.

Steph Gaudreau
Hmm, I love that I think that’s a beautiful place to end it. And it’s such a wonderful sentiment and even just there when you said that I was like and breathe Oh gosh, this has gone so quickly. It’s been so fun to get to catch up with you to hear your stories. I love I again it naked face for Grace. Bring that back, that sounds like a lot of fun and like a really powerful group experience. But I do appreciate so much you sharing those personal experiences with us reminding us on how to build that really authentic community so that we remind ourselves that we are not alone in this and we’re going to get through it together. I think that’s really awesome.

Grace Edison
Thank you so much for having me and I love to make connections with people. If people want to find me on Facebook, I’m always about the friend ads I love being able to actually build real community even on Facebook. Have a discussion out there in the open. Yeah. And so I would love for anybody who’s listening. I don’t have anything in particular that I’m offering at the moment, but just connecting on Facebook. And if we do start up the naked face for Grace, we will do it there.

Steph Gaudreau
I love it. I love it. And if people are in your geographical area what Where’s your studio?

Grace Edison
Oh, um, so I’m in the terrace, British Columbia, which is like Northwest under like the very bottom that bottom kind of section of Alaska.

Steph Gaudreau
Well if anyone is passing through. Yeah, look up Grace, and get on the mat. Well, thank you so much for being on the show. Grace. This has been so wonderful. I appreciate you so much, and thanks for being with us.

Grace Edison
Thanks, Steph.

Steph Gaudreau
All right, there we go. that is a wrap on this episode with Grace Edison. I hope that you took some Had a nugget away from this show. I love this naked face for Grace. I hope that she brings it back and I think it’s just a really great way to explore our choices to embody. The choices that we make for ourselves because we want to make them not because we feel we’re obligated, where we have to do particular things, especially with our body and our appearance in order to satisfy diet culture. I really hope that this one hits home. Of course, you can get the show notes for this episode over at StephGaudreau.com. There you’ll find a summary of ways you can connect with Grace, as well as a full transcript if you’re somebody who prefers or needs to read the content as well. Make sure you hit subscribe on your podcast app and share this one out on Instagram stories. If you loved this episode, I would love to see it. Tell us what you learned what your big takeaway from the episode was and of course tag Grace and myself so that we can see your thoughts and share it out. All right, I will be back next week was such an amazing episode. You’re getting so close to 300 it’s just such an incredible ride and such a joy to be here with you and until we talk again next week, be well.

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