What if, instead of weight loss, you shifted your focus to health gain?
Mindset, language, and intention matter when you’re approaching a major shakeup in your lifestyle.
Whether it’s eating better, committing to that exercise program you’ve been wanting to try, or sleeping more, how you frame things matters.
Thinking on your choices as a loss, what you’re “giving up”, the feelings of deprivation, hoping you don’t “slip up”, etc is a huge mistake.
I cannot emphasize this enough.
And if you say “weight loss” is a goal, it’s more likely that you mean fat loss or body recomposition. They sound similar but weight loss keeps you chained to the scale…
…and the searing feeling of defeat and disappointment when the scale hasn’t gone down enough – or at all – today is a negative pit that’ll suck you in.
Logically, you know that your bodyweight fluctuates depending on what you ate the day before, hormonal changes, stress, the weather, how much you exercised, and more.
But for some reason, if that scale doesn’t move as much as you want, you make it about you and your (lack of) self-worth…
Instead, approach lifestyle changes as an addition, an exploration, an experiment, an enhancement.
The energy around that language, that mindset, is TOTALLY different.
When you focus on weight loss, you’re always at a deficit, always struggling, hurrying, being pulled and dragged.
When you focus on gaining health, possibilities become endless. You start to enjoy the journey and recognize all the ways your life is improving.
The energy is light, buoyant, and one of infinite potential.
Health gains come from a place of self-love, from the desire to nourish and heal.
Weight loss comes from a place of self-hatred, of minimizing, of shrinking down to fit.
As my good friend Dr. Jolene Brighten so succinctly put it recently, “Weight loss is a by-product of better health.”
It is the result of taking steps to gain health, not the cause.
Don’t get sucked into the tug of war with the scale.
Add things to your routine – an hour more of sleep, another serving of veggies, some quiet time for you – instead of focusing on what you’re losing or taking away.
Gradually, you’ll gain a foothold and these small but powerful good habits will start to effortlessly fall into others like dominos. That’s the Harder to Kill way.
Health gain. Strength gain. How can you actually show up bigger in your life?
Shift your mindset, and see what opens up for you.