In today's Thursday Thoughts, I'm mulling over the idea of duality, fancy work spaces, sweet potato bowls, and my upcoming strength program, Made Strong. |

Thursday Thoughts – Duality

Welcome to this week’s installment of Thursday Thoughts…where I take some time to let you in on what’s happening in my world.

In today's Thursday Thoughts, I'm mulling over the idea of duality, fancy work spaces, sweet potato bowls, and my upcoming strength program, Made Strong. |

1) Last year, when I was at the Radiance Retreat, Erin Brown did a reading for me. One of the things that came up was this idea of embracing femininity and softness…to which I remember having a bit of a visceral reaction. See, I’m not a very “feminine” woman in the traditional sense of the word. And I don’t find joy in a lot of things that other females do. Make up and pretty nails and shopping aren’t my thing.

I struggled for many months with this idea of femininity rolling around in my brain because I’m 100% committed to being Steph. That means I like what I like, I am who I am (though I’m open to learning and change), and there just certain things I do and don’t enjoy. Honoring that is really important.

But then I realized that maybe I was thinking of duality – or polar opposites – instead of the shades of grey in the spectrum of what “feminine” or “masculine” could mean. And it occurred to me that my intuition, empathic nature (I’m an HSP), and other qualities are how “femininity” shows up for me daily. The takeaway for you is that the characteristics you may see as dual or binary may not be at all. Hopefully that gives you some peace of mind.

2) The little spot in this photo is my “fancy office” where I record videos and such. It’s nothing more than a corner of our living/dining room. Point being, you don’t need a big space if you’re a creator. Just start making things and stop worrying how legit or professional or polished everything looks. Oh, and the sheepskin covering on that bench is so, so cozy. Ellie (our cat) can’t decide whether she wants to knead and groom it, or if she’s terrified of it.

3) Sweet potato breakfast bowls are my new food love. You can make them savory or sweet, pile on the toppings, and customize them exactly how you want. I’ll be including a recipe for sweet potato breakfast bowls in the upcoming book. Yay! Just make sure to serve with a side of protein to start your day off right. I paired mine with my 7-minute foolproof eggs.

4) Thank you SO much for all the book recommendations last week. So many great ideas! I’d already started Crash Override by Zoe Quinn. It’s not for the faint of heart or easily freaked out…at all. Basically it’s about online harassment, and as someone who works primarily online, it’s made me pause and think.

5) Taking up space is such a big theme right now, and it’s so freakin’ awesome to see so many women talking about stepping into your own power, having presence, and not shrinking away from the challenges that come your way. This week’s podcast with Kourtney Thomas is, in fact, called Taking Up Space…and I’ve also read some powerful pieces from Chrissy King and Taylor Gage in the past few days alone.

6) I’m SO close to finishing my new strength program, Made Strong. OMG, this is so exciting! Here’s the gist: sixty different workouts based on simple movement patterns: push, pull, squat, hinge, and carry. Each workout is 45 minutes or less and is going to help you get in amazing shape with minimal equipment. Simple, effective, and you only need 3 workouts a week. I know you’re probably busy AF and don’t have 2+ hours to spend working out every single day. Totally not necessary or practical. You’ve got a life to live. Look for Made Strong coming soon. Better yet, get on my newsletter list so you’re the first to hear about it.

7) I really want to go to Iceland this year. Have you been? Know someone that went? Recommendations? Let me know in the comments!

8) (I know, I added an extra one.) Did you do the greyscale phone screen experiment? What happened? Did it work for you?

What resonated with you? Write me back in the comments! I’d love to hear from you.

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20 Responses

  1. New reader and I’m loving your blog ♡ Especially this concept with taking up space. I’m easily put aside these days (okay, forever) and even seem to forget myself.

  2. Ewww! I just found the greyscale on my phone. Trying it now, because I feel I’m wasting too much life on this thing. Wow, what a difference. Not sure I’m gonna keep this…but will for a few days and see if I can’t break a bad habit.

    1. Hey Mona! I’m glad you’re experimenting with it. For me, the little red notification dots on the screen became so much LESS interesting.

  3. Did the experiment and it totally worked. I’m planning on doing it when I need to focus on work or just need to unplug and chill the eff out.

    Ahhhh I can’t wait for Made Strong! I want simplicity and in a big box gym so much stuff is always taken, so I have a feeling it’s going work out well.

    My friend is going to Iceland in May, she’s never gone. I hear things are expensive (importing and all that) and so amazing.

    1. Definitely…I don’t have it on all the time but it’s super helpful for another layer of “boundaries.”

      Thanks, lady! I’m hoping it will help people to see that getting a good strength workout need not be complicated, long, or intimidating.

      They say that about NZ too but it was worth every penny 😉

  4. I’m not a “girlie girl” either. Often wondered if my tomboy roots led to the lack of interest in clothes, shoes, etc.
    I have a girlfriend that went to Iceland in November. She said it was freakin freezing, but beautiful. If you have a bucket list item to see the Northern Lights, this is the trip for you.

    1. Hey Marge! I’m glad I’m not the only one who isn’t girly…sometimes I feel so on the outside.

      Freaking freezing sounds like a trade I’d be willing to make to see the Northern Lights. I must see them in my lifetime <3

  5. I have really started to make more of an effort to put my phone down and be more present at home. I didn’t realize just how much of a time-suck it was becoming for me. I keep my phone in one central location now and check it every few hours or so for missed calls/texts and answer all emails in the evenings after my girls go to bed. I wish I could figure out the greyscale mode because even after distancing myself from my phone, those little red notification bubbles still get to me!

    I am really loving these Thursday Thoughts columns and am really looking forward to your new strength series!!

    1. That’s such a great idea, Michelle…giving it a home and not carrying it everywhere. If you’re on a iPhone, I can tell you how to do it. Just reply back and let me know.

      Thank you for the very kind words!

  6. Going to Iceland in the fall! Hiking and northern lights ?
    And thank you for pushing bigness. It is my new mantra. I will stand big, lift big, feel powerful in every aspect of my life!
    You are amazing Steph

    1. Oh my gosh Aly…you’ll have to check back in with me about how the trip goes. I love that you’re loving bigness. Yes…inner power and presence. Big hugs!

  7. I went to Iceland late June/early July last year. It is super expensive, like more than Europe typically is. And it rains everyday. The avg temp in summer is like 50-55 and add wind and rain and it’s pretty cold. However, if you enjoy the outdoors and want to see and experience some of the most beautiful sights and scenary in the world, it is there. From ice fields and volcanos to hot springs and waterfalls, Iceland has it all.

    1. Thanks Tracy! That’s really helpful 🙂 Average summer temp is 50-55 WHOA!! I’ll be saving up for a parka 😉

  8. I thought that was you! I saw you this morning in BJJ. I thought to myself, “she looks familiar, but I don’t know from where”. It was my first time taking the morning BJJ. Next time I’ll formally introduce myself. My wife and I are fans. Keep up the good work!

    1. Ahhhhhh omg what a small world, Neil! Ha! I’m usually still waking up so sorry if I seemed kinda quiet. I’m usually there in the AM so maybe I’ll catch you again soon? Oss!

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